The objective of this series is to invite us to look at the Corona virus from an intuitive point of view and thus see the divine order in this world event. Weaved through this excellent class is the assertion that we must take responsibility for creating this world wide karmic event and from that presence create a new life individually and therefore collective.
TELLURIDE...NOT IN MY DREAMS!
I wish I could treat myself the way my GPS treats me!
Loving yourself as if you were your best friend.
For starters let’s see what the noise and hype about self-esteem really is.
Self-esteem is a standard of “success” has everybody trying to get as much of it as they possibly can.
Self-esteem is a judgment of oneself, of one’s own worth.
The proponents of self-esteem as a measure of success state that in order to have a good dose of self-esteem you have to believe and feel you are indeed very successful. And the way you get there is by measuring yourself against everybody else, by being better than or superior to everybody else. It has gotten so out of hand that you cannot be “average” or “common” or “normal” anymore. To be considered successful, you have to be exceptional.
Because of the perceived importance of good self-esteem, people work hard to achieve it. This makes sense if you believe that as you raise your self-esteem, you raise your value in your own eyes and in the eyes of those who judge you.
This race to be awesome as fast as possible has been captured by a huge industry that promises to deliver big chunks of self-esteem if you buy whatever it is they are selling. It targets the whole gamut of human existence—cosmetics, plastic surgery, cars, housing, vacations, clothing, restaurants, schools, neighborhoods, even special courses and seminars. They all promise to make you feel better about yourself, to raise your value so that you can compete better in this world.
Not even children are spared from learning to be awesome. They play with toys that aim to be role models for the winners in this race, just like Barbie’s boyfriend “totally cool Ken” and other manufactured role models.
I find this self-esteem doctrine that emphasizes your worth quite disruptive and damaging. It’s a recipe for a life riddled with anxiety and frustration that can easily lead to depression or delusional narcissism.
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Love and Light,
Monica
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WHAT IS A MODERN LAZY BUT A LIAR?
Man in Universe - Jeremy Thomas
We have been exploring lying, why we lie and why it is an addiction quite omnipresent in our industrialized societies. We also talked about the fact that there are all kinds and levels of lies and that although most lies are apparently benign, they are only apparently so.
All lies leave a mark, a scar in our dignity, in who we think we are and in the way we relate to ourselves and to the rest of the world.
The liar thinks, or lies to himself into thinking, that he can keep the pretense, but he cannot hide forever. We all know most of the time when someone is lying. We feel it, and we don’t like it, we end up resenting the liar.
Sooner or later, lying corrodes all relationships, primarily with yourself and then with all others.
Most people lie without even knowing they are lying, it is their default way of communicating, so they make excuses, give explanations, hide information, twist facts for many reasons but most commonly to save face or to make others believe they are “more” of what they are not, and they even lie to avoid hurting others. We are “experts” at masking the truth.
I just came across an interesting take on lying: what Seth Godin calls “modern lazy” a 21st Century style of laziness. He says:
"the old lazy avoided cleaning the garage or doing the dishes or cutting the grass, but that the “modern lazy avoids emotional labor.”
This modern lazy is a typical modern liar. It is someone that has sold his soul to the comfort of not being accountable for most anything of true value. The modern lazy hides behind “non-commitment” and “non-interfering” because he does not want to do the “emotional labor” that committing requires.
This modern lazy avoids emotional labor. And what that means is that the modern lazy lacks the courage to question her convictions, lacks the dignity to look at the facts as she sees them, to ask the obvious question because it may result in a painful answer, to be fully present for the other or for a cause that she is pretending to care for, to get involved with what she knows is just, with what can help others, to encourage meaningful conversations and true dialogues instead of arguments, or to face her fears.
This emotional laziness paints the sorrow picture of a life lived in the darkness of a lie.
If left unchecked it becomes our digital imprint and the sad irrelevant mark we end up leaving behind us in this world.
Modern lazy is not aware of how much he is depriving himself of the riches of life. He is not present to life in all its colors and textures; he glides over them terrified of losing distance and landing over them.
Modern lazy chooses to live life in hiding, escaping from contributing to the world. But what he does not know is that if one day he throws away his mask, he can with his unique and dignified truth enhance the quality of his life and the integrity of his world.
Love and light,
Monica
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WE ALL LIE
Why do I lie so much, and why should I care if I lie?
Most of us lie most of the time. We all tell big lies, little lies, white lies, red and black lies… we tell all kinds of lies. We don’t think much about all this lying, we seem to think that this lying is like taking a shower, something you do and often.
Yet, lying has profound consequences on how we live, on how we interpret life and on how we relate to our human fellows. It establishes the color and tenor in all our relationships and in how we connect with ourselves and the world around us.
There are all kinds of lies, from huge lies that can impact our life in profound ways such as denying a crime we have committed, to medium lies like pretending you care when you don’t, to smaller lies like stealing an apple at the grocery store. But regardless of the size and weight of our lies, they all leave a scar in our integrity, and if left unchecked, in the long run they lead us to a chaotic life.
To lie is to intentionally mislead others when they expect honest communications.
It is a non-very subtle form of betrayal, and it surely corrodes the level of trust between friends. The liar, if she has any awareness of the fact that she is lying, imagines that she is not harming the other person in as long as her lie goes unnoticed. She will mostly give you long winded or convoluted excuses of why she did what she did to avoid embarrassment, to exaggerate her abilities, to disguise wrongdoing, to spare your feelings, to pretend what she is not, and or to get out of a situation.
We sometimes become so used to lying and just saying whatever will get us to where we want to be, that we don’t even realize we are lying.
The deceit of lying becomes so ingrained in our psyches and behavior that many many times, we don’t even know we are lying.
When I say I will call you back, that I will return your book, that I will check on your email, that I will look into your question, that I did not see you, that I did not have it, and so on, with no real intention of doing it, or truth to back it up, I am deceiving and I am lying to you. And lying is a breach of trust, and it is damaging to any relationship, not only because of the inherent deceit but also because it implies the arrogant stance of thinking that I am so smart that I can cheat you.
I am not exaggerating the severity and the deep implications that lying has in our life mainly because it corrodes our happiness and our wellbeing.
But the next time, right as you are about to make an excuse, or about to share a belief, or take a stance on a group decision, stop for a moment and check your motivation. Check what is the intention behind your action verbal or not. Check what is the purpose of your interaction. Give yourself some space to decide if it is aligned with your integrity, your truth and your desire to connect to what is honest, then, once you decide, proceed with full awareness.
Ask yourself whether you are about to strengthen your sense of honor, integrity and dignity, or whether you are strengthening your sense of deceit and dishonor.
Although lying is popular, honesty is the biggest gift we can give others and ourselves. Once we commit to it and we live by it, it becomes a source of power.
We need to emulate those wise and compassionate human beings marked by sterling honesty who have made a mark in the history of humanity. We can do it. We can start right now by learning to pay attention to what we are doing and thinking and by practicing to become aware of what is our own truth at any given moment.
We will learn not to compromise our integrity and we will thus allow the best of us to shine through. We will start a new world!
Love and light,
Monica
NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS THAT REALLY WORK!
How can we make 2018 a year we can be proud of?
The year in itself is just a few hundred days, but how we show up for them, is what will give them their color and tone. How we live them will make this 2018 either the year when the world became a bit sweeter more enlightened place or a bitter and darker place.
New Year Resolutions, of the usual kind, a list of statements that answer to what am I going to do? what am I going to get?… are just a bunch of wishful statements and proclamations that almost never come alive. And why is that? Because most of them are formulated from our tiny ego mind and they respond to the needs of the ego, they are all about me, me, me and my needs to finally be happy. They tend to satisfy our psychological mask and not who we truly indeed are at the core of our being.
We just celebrated Christmas, although most of us have no idea of what we truly celebrated. We did not celebrate the birth of a baby about 2000 years ago. We celebrated the birth of Christ in us. We celebrated that we allowed ourselves to open up to our immense capacity, our divine essence, our connection to the Source of all there is.
Christmas is actually a recognition of who we truly are, an actualization of all we are. Jesus said: “you and I are the same.” The difference between Jesus and us is that we don’t accept that we are inherently divine and that we have the same immense power that he had. Jesus knew who he truly was, “I and my father are one.” He had actualized his true self in the power of love, he lived from that place and he healed the sick and resurrected the dead. We can too… if we only accept we are much more than what our narrow and petty ego mind tells us we are.
The celebration of New Year, so soon after Christmas, gives us an opportunity to deepen the realization of our newly born Christ consciousness. And we express it in our Resolutions.
As I allow myself to become aware of my innate capacity, I do not think of New Year Resolutions in terms of what I need, I want, I deserve, I will get, I will become, I will be. I do not talk about discovering my potential and the best version of myself sometime in the future. When I accept who I truly am, I know that I have immense inherent capabilities, and I start using them right now, one day at the time. I do not wait till I am perfect at them, but know that my capacity is here in me now and that it will shine more and more as I practice it starting now.
Discovering and connecting with our true Self, turn our days joyful, peaceful and complete. We know that our mission is to be happy, to enjoy life no matter what, not only for ourselves but to pass it along to all who come in contact with us and beyond. We become responsible for how we live and we do it guided by a deeply felt desire to be of help, of service to others. We are motivated by a yearning to help make this world a sweeter place to be. We do not blame anybody or anything for what is not working in our lives. We instead welcome the awareness of what is our own individual contribution to the betterment of it all.
Our New Year Resolution then becomes an honorable request:
May I actualize the truth about who I really am.
May I become who I really am.
May I know how to show up for 2018
May I be of service to my family, my community, my country, the environment.
May I contribute to making this a more joyful, peaceful, sweeter world.
MY VERY BEST WISHES FOR A HAPPY NEW YEAR! May you all see the light you are in 2018!
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It is the Holiday Season. But what does it mean to you? What can the Holidays do for you and your life?
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The term Holiday originally referred to a consecrated day, a religious festival, a day of grace. Skipping the reference to religion, it described a day put aside to reflect on something bigger than us, a god, a saint, a hero; it memorialized someone or something we admired and/or we were grateful for, it reminded us of contributions made by truly evolved humans beings to our humanity and of how they advanced us by their example.
But the term slowly but surely changed through the years and in 1937 it flourished as a greeting for: “Happy Holidays!” Camel cigarette adds made it widely popular as a Christmas greeting. It became an exhortation to relax, to do nothing, to just let the lungs do the work.
It later morphed into a non-working day devoted to reap the blessings of shopping and sales-hunting. Nowadays the holiday greeting could very well be: “It’s a Holiday, shop till you drop”… sort of thing.
There is nothing wrong with that if that is what fulfills us, what makes us better people, closer to our friends and loved ones, if it is what turns us softer and less judgmental, more benevolent and truly happy. Maybe that is your experience of the holidays, but it is not mine.
Yes, I do like to have fun and I like to enjoy with my family and friends and give and receive presents and savor mostly great foods, and see everybody smiling a lot –hopefully.
But yet, we are missing the point as we strip the sacred aspect of the Holidays. In so doing we miss the opportunity to reflect on what it is that we are celebrating, what greatness names the Holiday we are enjoying, and how we can bring it into our awareness to make it ours, so that it can guide us to evolve into a greater version of ourselves.
I am not trying to water down the holidays. I am yes, trying to bring together with the shopping and the turkey and the pies, the original sanctity of the Holidays. I want to ascend them to their original meaning so that we become aware that we can indeed incorporate the attributes we gather to celebrate and enrich our lives.
Thanksgiving is past now, it is 3 full days gone by now, but since I still have my laptop jammed with Cyber Monday “attacks”… I would like to take the opportunity to reflect on Gratitude once again.
Gratitude is the direct path to grace, to happiness, to wholeness, and to peace. That is what Thanksgiving can remind us to bring more of into our lives.
Happy Sacred Holiday Season!!!!
Love and Light,
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A TRUE THANKSGIVING PRAYER - A GIFT FOR THE HEART- Courtesy of Mercedes Sosa.
Thanksgiving is here again! One more opportunity we have to think about what really matters and be grateful for it all. It is a truly enlightened festivity in that it highlights the immense power we receive when we celebrate life.
Yes, I believe that Thanksgiving is the most sacred day of the year and I am fortunate and---very thankful—that I live in a country that takes one day of the year to say and think: Thank you!
Usually, I suggest that we make lists of all the benefits we receive and enjoy.
But this year I am strongly motivated to share with you a special form of gratitude that has the sweet connotations of a deep prayer. It shares the true meaning of gratitude and involves us in contemplative prayer.
I am referring to a magnificent piece of music written by Violeta Parra and sung by a true master of life --Mercedes Sosa.
GRACIAS A LA VIDA is the original version. The following video is in Spanish with English subtitles. If you do not understand Spanish, listen to it feeling the emotion of her heartfelt THANK YOU TO LIFE.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AsadhxkzHl0
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PRAYER HAS GOT A BAD REPUTATION - DO I NEED TO PRAY?
Prayer is a word that in the last fifty years has become almost taboo in spiritual circles. You can attend hundreds of workshops on all sorts of “spiritual” subjects from yoga to consciousness to positive thinking to the law of Attraction and you will not hear the word prayer. It has been banned not only from the “spiritual” realm but also out of all political discourse and most intriguingly, out of schools. All the way from nursery to high school, it is gone, not a trace of prayer.
The sole mention of the word prayer ignites hostility even in the spiritual discourse with the same heated violence as political discussions.
The New Age Movement had a lot to say about established religion and its control mechanisms and doubtful priorities, particularly so about the Catholic Church. And it became a decisive force in the disappearance of prayer from society at large.
But the fact that human institutions may, and do in many cases, violate the spirit from whom they sprouted, be it Jesus, Buddha, Muhammad, Yahweh, it does not mean that all is corrupt, wrong and deceitful. They are all based on ancient revelations and teach the fundamental premise that we are made of divine substance and that we can connect with the god “outside” and “inside” ourselves. Fact that a bit of practice makes it experientially verifiable.
If you are reading this, you probably would agree that we are much more than our body and ego-mind and environment. Indeed we are deeply imbued in the substance of the divine. Our essential nature is spirit, Self, divine, and god. As simple as that.
What is not so simple is to know how to access that which is our core essence, who we truly are. .
Meditation and Prayer
They are the two most effective ways to reach your soul. Through meditation you relax the chatter of your mind into the stillness of your Self, beyond thoughts, and through prayer you consciously establish a sublime dialogue with the divine.
In prayer you enter the chambers of the sacred and when you do so, your life transforms.
But not all prayers are transformational. The most common, most used form is the petition prayer.
Petition prayers are all about asking for stuff you want or need. A new car, a partner, better health, a better home, to win the lotto, etc., nothing wrong with the items on the list. But most of the time this kind of petition is done without entering the sacred, without knowing whom we are talking to. It is done because we hope there is a superior being, more powerful than us who can do things we cannot do.
All is well, but this kind of prayer –prayer of request— even if it manifests your needs, does not help you evolve. It does not help you become more aware, conscious, or mindful of who you really are. It cannot transform you into a more profoundly “better” being, into living more within the depths of your Self.
Transformational Prayers on the other hand, evolve our lives and us into truth and happiness.
Your intention is not to get stuff. Your intention is to enter a space where personal transformation can occur. You are looking for truth, for insight, for illumination. It is an inner journey of discovery.
It is a truthful, sincere inner dialogue from your human divinity to god’s divinity. And although equal in essence it is totally, completely unequal in wisdom and knowledge. You enter the dialogue asking for help, for the wisdom to know how best to know yourself. From that humility, which has nothing to do with humiliation, you establish a conversation and you ask and you listen and you know you receive.
I particularly like one of Caroline Myss prayers, it goes something like this:
“God, doze me with Grace that reminds me of what is important, of the things I know are true;
doze me with the courage to change and the steadiness to deliver.”
Transformational prayer is not an intellectual interaction with the almighty God. It is a devotional, one. When you enter prayer in this way, grace is the medium in which exchange occurs.
Learn to pray from this place and experience yourself evolving into a kinder, more positive, more reflective, more creative and much less judgmental graceful version of yourself.
In the next posts we will get deeper into prayer, transformational, healing and others. They will strengthen your meditation practice and will enrich the quality of your life.
See you in the next post¡
Love and Light,
Monica
YOU HAVE CROSSED THE BRIDGE. YOU ARE IN NEW TERRITORY. SO WHAT DO YOU DO NOW????
YOU HAVE LEARNED TO MEDITATE.
YOU MEDITATE DAILY.
YOU ARE ON THE OTHER SIDE.
YOU ARE IN NEW TERRITORY.
SO…..WHAT DO YOU DO NOW????
You are on the other side of the river. You have started to acquire a new awareness, a new way of looking at “reality”. You understand the futile circularity of your thinking process. You are beginning to discern what is important from what is not important. You get a glimpse of how much the voice in your head is getting you no-where.
In a word, your mind is leaner and you are wiser. You feel a bit happier but you also realize you are becoming a different person. What was important yesterday is not relevant today, what was drama and hysteria is now an experience to go through, what was judgment and anger are becoming something slightly more subtle. You realize that you have shed stuff you were familiar with. Stuff that made you who you thought you were for decades. You are on the other side of the bridge looking back at that familiar face that is paling little by little.
And… you panic! The grass may be greener here but you are not that sure of who you are in this new territory. You realize that most of what gave you confidence and a sense of belonging is becoming quite irrelevant in this new world.
You understand that the little you have explored through your meditation practice has given you beautiful moments of deep peace, fragrant whiffs of new ways to love, tentative sharp insights that surprise you, glimpses of kindness that turn you happy. You know it is the real you in a beautiful land and yet…. so much newness makes you uneasy. The uncertainty of the newness, of the novelty, of the change, is unsettling you.
Paradoxically, you also start noticing a bit of fear creeping into your mind..., the fear that all this growth and newly acquired joy might disappear. You realize you don’t know how to work with it or what else to do to make it permanent.
You wish there is something you can do to not only keep your meditation practice strong but also to strengthen your connection to the new You and to your new Life.
And I believe you are right! You need other tools, techniques that will complement your meditation and will integrate your quiet practice with your active life with a renewed sense of reverence and sacredness. Something else that will deepen the intention you bring to your meditation so that it will permeate all aspects of your life.
There are many many tools: rituals, devotional chanting, ceremonial participation, retreats, yoga, breathing exercises, etc., all beautiful enhancers of any spiritual path, but I believe that there is one in particular that is absolutely essential to give deep meaning to your spiritual unveiling and growth: PRAYER.
Prayer is the ultimate “technique” you need in order to navigate the new territory you have started to acquire. When you learn what it is, what is an authentic prayer, a powerful prayer, and you learn to use it, you will begin to feel its grace pouring over you. You will know that you have arrived.
In my next posts, we will dive deeply into the realm of prayer. Stay tuned!
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Love and Light!
Monica
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